Sometimes it is wiser to join forces with opponents than to fight them. What a better world this would be if we worked together in harmony toward the achievement of our shared goals ……………instead of engaging in petty disputes and turf battles.
When we allow our-self to be dragged into personality conflicts, game playing, and arguments about who gets the credit, and disagreements about trivial issues, the fact is.........they only drain our energy and sour our attitude.
Whenever you're in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That very factor is your attitude.
Moreover, you waste valuable time that could be spent on far more important matters. When you make an effort to understand others' motivations, you may well discover that your opponents have far more in common with you than you think.
When you cage your ego and look at the situation from the other person's point of view, you can almost always find a way to work together for your mutual advantage.
Lean to say, "If you agree with me, well: if not, we can agree to disagree. if /when you have to add more then Interrupt with these:
- Can I add something here?
- Is it okay if I jump in for a second?
- If I might add something...
- Sorry to interrupt, but...
- (after accidentally interrupting someone) Sorry, go ahead. OR Sorry, you were saying...
- (after being interrupted) You didn't let me finish….
Those will not only defuse the situation but give you more control on the subject. Think about it……
Whenever you're in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That very factor is your attitude.
When you cage your ego and look at the situation from the other person's point of view, you can almost always find a way to work together for your mutual advantage.
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